Public service announcement for those of you who were sound asleep,
Wrapped comfortable in your lovers arms or holding firmly to your antidotes to depression,
Last night at 4am the Purge of sanity began,
The ideations poured in like childhood nightmares,
But unlike the ones on Elm’s street,
I can not run away from these,
The distance from my bed to the door became a labyrinth,
My brain became the fun house at carnivals that remind you that the only thing worse than spiders is staring at your own reflection,
Each corner lines with mirrors to expose painted on smiles so frightening the Joker would have been proud.
Now confined to the gallows of my own consciousness I beg my brain to just please except that I am being hung by my own hands,
To just drift off into unconsciousness so I can finally sleep,
Sleep avaids my ever pleating heart,
The boxing match turned into a cage fight,
In one corner my heart,
The other every lover I have ever had,
Each punch laced with broken promises, lies, and heartbreak,
There is no referee on my self-loathing,
By the end of tonight I will be lucky if I come out alive…
How have I not driven you mad?
I still think of him and feel so much…
So much anger,
So much sadness,
And so much love
I feel like a top spinning off of a desk falling for something I will never believe in.
I think it’s funny how it’s always my life, my responsibility and my body Until there’s a fetus involved then it’s up to everybody
“She should keep it”
“she’s too young, she’s too scared”
“that whore got what she deserved”
“look at for the prego over there”
They cast judgement faster their Instagram likes
Give hatred a winky faced smile than walk on right by
Glorify the body positively of a posted half naked in the right light
But throw shade on me when I am sitting here fighting for a life
I’m drowning in silence, as the two stripes appear
How am I gonna tell my father
Will it’s father even be around here
I’m screaming through my silence,
then my voice cracked and shakes off the fear the option to get rid of it seems the only thing that is clear
That is until I felt
The very next day; I threw up in the bathroom then turned and walked away
Is this my baby and my child or the worst mistake of my life,
Where’s a god when you need him,
I need to take control of this fight
Days turn to a week and my visions getting blurry
My belly starts to stretch, and needs to make this discussion in a hurry
I walk into that clinic,
confusing my tears for rain,
hold firmly to the table and for once in my life pray
Walking out of the clinic was even harder than walking in
I refuse to look in mirror
God where do I begin
All I wanted was some refuge
A helping hand at most
But what I got was hatred and silence,
so much judgement it slit throats
A beautiful baby girl laid down her own life,
I cut my own wrist because I was the little girl that died,
Society gave me no choice
But instead gave me a double edge blade
Told me to grab on tight,
Told me they would support me, do what’s best for my life
Then gasp in surprise as I was bleeding out
Tell me doll is this what pro-choice and pro-life was supposed to be all about.
The number one question on tinder today is: “How in the world is a girl like you single?”
Well boys and girls please sit down as I tell you why:
- Swearing isn’t lady like and I don’t give a damn that people fucking think it’s rude.
- You would look so much prettier if you just tried a little harder.
- My love is like a treasure chest; filled with glistening moments that bring glory, joy and wonder only to be later seen as monitary value to be barged with, tested, and sold to the highest bidder, each piece taken away from me as symbol of my lovers’ triumph over my heart.
- “I don’t date short girls”.
- May fairytales are more like Grim’s. There is no happily ever after, and I am pretty sure my “Prince Charming” got lost and is too stubborn to ask for directions.
- “It’s not you it’s me…”
- My body is more like a quest than a home; each knight gets wrapped in the excitement of saying they have slain the dragon but never knowing what to do with the princess after that; the crown didn’t fit my head right and I don’t fit into the kingdom quite right…maybe I was better off with the dragon
- Omg you like girls too that is so hot we should totally….ehhh stop there do not pass go do not collect two hundred dollars, that is not how this game work.
- I’m not the type of girl that people fall in love with. I am the paper town meant to be burned down by men with matches. I pride myself on provide warmth and love by sacrificing my heart to the hollowness of bones. Creating graveyards of memories, where all ex’s are followed by “oooohh”‘s
- “We’re sorry the number you have dialed is no longer in service or has been disconnected. Please hang up and try again”
Hello, I will be your doctor today.
Please tell me what I can help you with.
Well, sir….I have chronic, cycled depression,
Haphazard Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder,
and a fluctuating eating disorder…
Since the age of 8 I have felt like I am not good enough,
Have attempted to kill myself 3 times, but succeeded in my mind over a thousand,
My intrusive thoughts appear more like imaginary friends than skeletons,
Insomnia no longer is a word, but a conscious state of being completely awake while living a nightmare,
But overall I am generally functional…
Well the best I can give you is these pills…
Here take one of these in the morning, and one of these at night to go to sleep.
Does anyone else find it ironic that one of the greatest side affects of antidepressants is weight gain…
Followed by drowsiness,
and a lose of Libido….
As if I didn’t walk in here self-conscious enough,
My anxiety spikes just thinking that the things I am clinging to to make me better may actually bring to life all of my nightmares at once.
Remember to always take your pills in the morning,
Ignore the sickness in your stomach,
Pretend you aren’t overstimulated simply by light,
Accept the fact that your state of bliss was concentrated down to a pill,
Swallow the pill with your sadness.
I gained 10 pounds in a month on my antidepressants,
Which was surprising because I didn’t think that zombies could gain weight,
Especially the ones who are starving to feel better,
While still shoving tranquilizers down their throats.
I starved my depression so much so that the light at the end of the tunnel just turned out to be the blinding sense of being “happy” that they promised,
My chill pills didn’t make me feel safer,
Rather I felt as if I was floating on the open waters of the ocean,
My monsters clawing below me,
When really I was in my bathtub…
I found that instead of feeling more alive, I felt more like death,
Each pill become another bullet-hole to my creativity,
The fabric placed over my eyes so I didn’t see that I was only “drowning” in a cup of water I continued to fill…
So Mr. Doctor, I come here today to tell you
Please keep your pills to yourself,
Please give my a prescription for my life back.
At the age of 5;
I walked up to my father,
Took the bull by the horns,
and ran with the idea that I could do anything I dreamed of…
At the age of 5 I found out the reality that no matter how much I dreamed I would never be able to be just like the boys,
Because hockey is a guy’s sport,
and boys don’t cry like I do when I fall down…
At the age of 8;
I was finally able to decide for myself how I looked…sort of,
I marched into school knowing that I was going to let my natural beauty shine through…
At the age of 8 I found out that I was the Mona-Lisa,
That I would be prettier if I smiles,
That my hair wasn’t quite right and should have been straighter,
That my place in this world was to look pretty enough for other amusement,
Make-up started filling the paint brushes and the fake smile coated my face
At the age of 10;
I remember feeling grown up,
Like this was step toward me meaning something,
And that I couldn’t wait to get older…
At the age of 10 I found out that my body wasn’t a temple but rather graffiti on the wall,
The if I started showing too soon or too much I was faking,
That the alley ways weren’t the only things supposedly stuffed with tissues,
And that rather than be supportive, girls would rather call you an attention whore and fake than acknowledge their own insecurities…
At the age of 13;
I ran wild and free away from my depression and sadness,
held tight to the back of his shoulders and the wind rushing by felt like each gust was taking my worries away just a little more…
At the age of 13 I found out that just because you “love” someone doesn’t mean you understand what no means,
That screaming and crying can be silenced by the most beautiful of smiles,
and that luckily for me, tears are a turn off and a harsh snap back to reality…
At the age of 16;
I fell in love again,
I saw sunshine lighting my world through dark black eyes,
Felt tender kisses ease the pain of scars…
At the age of 16 I found out what it feels like to have everything you gave be valued to nothing,
That my heart and body were simply just a roller coaster at an amusement park,
That while he wasn’t with me he would prefer to take a ride on others,
That no matter what I gave up, at the end of the day it didn’t matter because someone else was offering the same things I could give and more…
At the age of 18;
I started chasing my dreams,
Went on to a bigger city filled with the hope that these college walls would inspire an epiphany…
At the age of 18 I found out that part of my dream would be giving up someone I loved because I could take the pain and he couldn’t,
I filled my life with every distraction I could as I walked away,
Needles and knives became friends,
and sex transformed into the world where I could feel like I was worth something for those five minutes,
that my body wasn’t just filling a space that could be replaced with only memories…
At the age of 19;
I embraced memories of a older days,
Filled the worlds with smiles of love and support,
and cherished old friendships,
At the age of 19 I found out that my actions always justified the pain that others inflicted on me,
That alcohol meant more to a judge than the fact that I can’t even remember that I said no,
That the fact that a restraining order would be too harsh because it would make it harder for him to get a job,
Never-mind the fact that I still struggle to get out of bed to go to mine,
Never-mind that I didn’t want to be here in the same room as him,
Never-mind that I that I was flustered because I should have known the words to say,
Should have known that friends could rape you,
Should have known what I was walking into,
Should have known that I was tempting him, that my judgement would be clouded by tequila,
Should have known that he would lie,
Lie about how much he cared about me,
Lie about the fact that he missed me,
Lie about the fact that he and I were so close,
Lie right to the judges face about what he did to me that night,
I learned that a judge would rather listen to a liar because even though my life was ruined again society couldn’t ruin his too…
At the age of 21;
I lay in bed next to the first man I feel safe with again,
He kisses my forehead as we fall asleep…
At the age of 21 I found out that my nightmares could become his,
That I may feel safe when I am awake, but my nightmares crawl out as soon as my eyes are closed,
Want to see heartbreak,
Try explaining the fear of the boogie man to a man who doesn’t understand that he isn’t him,
Sob that you want to be normal again,
That you want to feel sane again,
That this isn’t what you wanted to be like but your ribs are starting to feel like the cage they were named after,
One were visitors are welcome but hardly ever return because the psych ward isn’t pretty even when you try to pain the walls with flowers…
When people ask me how old I am they are shocked to hear that I have only been on this world for 21 years,
My heart it 26, my mind is 30, and my conscious has no number that can fathom how old it truly feels.
In this life I have learned to use ink to write gravestones of each little part of me that died,
I try to tell people that my body became a graveyard at the age of 5,
That all of these headstones are mine,
But like a cat I have 9 lives,
And sure I may be on my last one of them, I still know how to stand on my own feet,
I’ve laid to rest a lot of demons lately,
These tombstones don’t symbolize losing they show that I have won,
Though their ghosts may haunt me and each day I can remember what it feel like to die I still know how to breath,
At the age of 22;
I will still be alive…
(Four consecutive poems written based upon Timothy Wilson’s Best Possible Self Reflection in his book Redirect. Written in the perspective of myself in 5-10 years reflecting upon where my life has taken me)
Wednesday: Dear Diary, I'm getting tired of this, Waking up feeling ill, Stomach churning and head spinning. So I walked to the doctor, And explained quietly to the nurse, The corner of her mouth raised as she handed me a test, "I'll wait in here just set it there, and we should known soon enough" So I'm sitting here now starring at the pamphlets on the wall, Thinking to myself how I even got here at all, My job as a Social Justice and Human Resources consultants, Provides me with the benefits I have, I can take a day off, Go to the doctor who is not to far, And sit here praying to some god that there isn't something wrong, The doctor knocks softly, Causing me to jump, Pamphlets in his hand each with a baby on the front, I feel my eyes start watering, From fear and solid cheer, "Miss, I must inform you that you are pregnant, Here's some information here..." As he drones on softly, I cup my stomach in my hand, We've been trying for this for some time now, We almost gave up too, But this fluttering beat inside my heart Means our wish has finally come true. Thursday: Dear Diary, We finalized my schedule today, Planned ahead for the last eight months, Truly it is bittersweet, To leave what I have worked so get for, I discussed doing online schooling, Until the baby can go to school, Which seems silly, I have received three diplomas in my life, What will one more do? But as my bosses eyes light up, As the idea popped in her head, "What if you worked from home, Changed it up and consulted for us instead, I know you love to travel, But this way you can stay with the baby until then." A soft twinkle hit my eye, A tear if you must know, For I am giving up consulting across the world, With companies unknown, A few less trips to Europe, No more late nights in Peru, Rather a computer screen at home, Instructing others how to do what I do, And once our meeting finished, I realized what I had, I might be changing how I do my job, But I have another one at hand. Friday: Dear Diary, I told him today, That our lives were going to change for the better, He looked confused as he sipped his cup of coffee, Then kissed me on the cheeks and was on his way, I heard the motorcycle leave the driveways, Smiled a sneaky smile, And proceeded with the plan... I surprised him at work today, Picked him up in our car, And drove him to the pier, Handed him a letter and waited for what I would hear, He tore the seal, My heart stopped as he mumbled the words to himself, One second, two seconds, three seconds...four seconds...five seconds, The a pause, His eyes grew wide, The paper floated softly from his hands, A flash, A warm embrace, Tears, No words...just happiness and fear beautifully wrapped into one. Saturday: Dear Diary, The happiness seems short lived, We agree on nothing, The first argument of many about our future, "I have to work," "You don't have to work overtime," "The money isn't there," "This is why we saved up," "But what if something happens," "Nothing ever does," "Our place isn't big enough," "It's a baby it doesn't need much room" "But what about when it grows up" "Stop screaming at me!" "Why are you crying" "I'm not ready..." "Neither am I..." "But we have to be..." "I love you..." "I love you too" Sunday: Dear Diary, We stayed in bed today, Just a little bit later than normal, Soaked in the Sun, And cherished moments of silent bliss, Filling out minds with muffled giggles and pounding hearts, In a way doing nothing was a way of celebrating, The fact that we have gotten this far, His job is going well, The promotion is all lined up, Financially we have nothing to worry about, Getting my masters was worth it, If it means I can do this for the next five years, As the gentle pulse in my stomach becomes pattering feet upon the hardwood floor, Yes breaking my back at work was worth the moment, That he placed his hand upon my stomach this morning, A sleepy smile spreading across his face, And whispered, "Hey there little one, I can't wait to see you, And hold you in my arms, But you have to do me a favor, As your dad, I want you to be nicer to your mom, And stop making her so ill, We are all super excited to meet you, But little baby you need to chill." And as he coos so softly, Feeling a small pulse beneath his hands, I release the sigh of relief, For the journey and the blessings I have.
A letter to my lonely lover,
this is not a love letter you will grin at as you read it like a poem each night…
No this is a letter of precaution,
Because I can only lay my head on the collarbone of your broken heart,
Attempt to hear the melody behind mismatched breathing.
I can not hear the way your breaths playing against your ribs like wind-chimes echoing the emptiness that is inside you,
No I can not hear that.
I can not feel the clattering of bones beneath me shaking at their own loneliness.
Nor understand that the reason you twitch right before you fall asleep is because your body needs to remind you that you are more than a skeleton waiting to rot.
Laying here I don’t see any of that…
I understand what it feels like to have every ounce of your soul ache for intimacy,
But can not seem to grasp it or find it in this world.
Because we locked our hearts away in our rib cage,
and then threw away the key….
It’s not like we don’t know where the key is,
We memorized the seconds between bounces and exactly where it landed.
But out of sight equals out of mind,
And I can finally pretend that my heart isn’t resting on the bottom of my stomach,
crying out to be fixed like a broken birds wing.
I will not feel that,
and neither will you…
So we try to find comfort in moments that will only land milliseconds in our brains,
And sleep in god knows how many other people’s beds because we have forgotten why it felt right to sleep alone…
But it’s not that we don’t feel it,
But we pretend that we don’t feel it,
We want to feel like we are a whole person laying beside yet another one night stand,
and that is it!
But when we wake up in the morning,
your face won’t give me comfort,
and I will look in the mirror to see exactly who I was yesterday staring back at me,
I want to punch the glass so that I bleed,
because bleeding makes sense,
that is what happens when you are hurt,
you bleed and you scar…
But not when it’s your heart.
Instead my eyes they bleed tears…and tears dry,
And it’s hard to explain why your hurting when what your body is bleeding in misery is only visible to you…
So I will crawl back in bed with you,
I will kiss you on the lips,
Say I had a good time,
Rest my head again on your chest pretending that the heartbeat I hear is simply that…
Just a heart beat…
Because if I read too much into it then I know I will do something stupid,
like kiss you again, but this time it will be different because it will mean something,
because for that millisecond my heart will drop a feather outside my ribcage reminding me that I can still feel.
But I don’t want that.
I would rather live in the graveyard of my hollow chest,
then give you the power to send my heart back to hell!
That’s the scary thing about laying next to a broken lover…
They make you realize how broken YOU truly are…
I got told by my father today that my sexuality wasn’t natural and was immoral,
My mother laughed at the idea that it even exists,
I’ve never felt so alone and judged.
Yet they wonder why I am tentative to show them how I feel,
But how am I supposed to act when the walls I called home are filled with wondering eyes,
When I can’t be half the person I am in fear that you will only see me as that and nothing more,
How am I supposed to act when your house no longer feels like home,
Because people like me,
We aren’t welcome here.
Mom and dad
I would go home more of you really understood,
But I can’t.
My friends now don’t understand,
How I can label myself as one way yet say I have never dated someone of the same sex,
That I have never laid my hands on a women,
No they don’t get it.
It’s not that I haven’t considered it or don’t want to,
It’s because I can’t.
Mom and dad,
I want to feel at home again,
But I can’t,
I don’t want to walk in the door with my girlfriend and simply have to call her my friend,
I want to hold her hand and tell you
How she is beautiful,
That she lights up my skies in a way that would make the stars jealous,
That her laugh is more beautiful than the apple blossoms that bloom in spring,
And that in her arms I feel more secure than when I have stood in my own home.
I want to do that,
But I won’t.
I fear the response,
And your ignorance.
No I am not with her because I have been hurt by men!
No this is not some phase I will grow out of!
No she isn’t some experimental toy I have because I am in college!
No she is not just some girl!
She is strong,
She is beautiful,
And she is mine!
She knows more of me than you ever will,
Because she can see past the stigma of a title.
So I am sorry mom and dad,
But there is a chance that another girl or boy or ze will take the place of what you tried to call my home,
Because they don’t make me live in a house of glass,
And they finally succeeded in make me feel less alone.